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Q2. Sacrificial Love by Husbands

#1 User is offline   Pastor Ralph

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Posted 04 September 2006 - 01:07 PM

Q2. (Ephesians 5:25-30) Does being head of the wife involve being "boss"? Why or why not? What does being "head" require of a husband? What is the example husbands are to follow in headship?
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Posted 22 January 2007 - 09:11 PM

Q2. (Ephesians 5:25-30) Does being head of the wife involve being "boss"? Why or why not? What does being "head" require of a husband? What is the example husbands are to follow in headship?
Being head of the wife does not involve being "boss". God did not give to the husband a position of "boss," not over the wife. To the husband, he is required to be the "head" of the wife as Christ is the "head" of the Church. Christ's position as "head" of the Church is the example that husbands are to follow in headship. For most husbands this is a hard pattern to follow but if they are to follow in the will of God they are to treat their wife as God would have them, putting aside self and loving their wife in all her imperfections. The husband is to be source, praying for her strength; provider, seeing to it that the she has the necessities to be a good wife and mother; sustainer, ensuring that the home is maintained and bills are taken care of; source of unity, keeping the bond of peace in the marriage and keeping the family together; source of growth, ensuring that the wife and family grows spiritually and that they are equipped to meet the demands of every day living. The husband love for his wife is to match Christ's love for his church. His service to his wife is to match Christ's giving up himself for his church.


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Posted 25 January 2007 - 10:33 PM

Does not whatsoever mean being bossy. Husbands are to love their wives just like Jesus love the congregation. Husbands are to love their wives as their own bodies. Treat their wives with love and respect. Husbands are to follow Jesus' example.
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Post icon  Posted 26 January 2007 - 09:14 PM

QUOTE(Pastor Ralph @ Sep 4 2006, 05:07 AM) View Post
Q2. (Ephesians 5:25-30) Does being head of the wife involve being "boss"? Why or why not? What does being "head" require of a husband? What is the example husbands are to follow in headship?
Absoutely not The only boss in a marraige is Christ who is the true head.

Paul devotes twice as many words to telling husbands to love their wives as to telling wives to submit to their husbands. How should a man love his wife? (1) He should be willing to sacrifice everything for her. (2 ) He should make her well-being of primary importance. (3) H should care for her as he cares for his own body. No wife needs to fear submitting to a man who treats her in this way.

Ephesians 5: 25-27 ) Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her. This is the example the husband should follow as headship of the wife and home.

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Posted 12 February 2007 - 12:50 AM

Q2. (Ephesians 5:25-30) Does being head of the wife involve being "boss"? Why or why not? What does being "head" require of a husband? What is the example husbands are to follow in headship?

There are lot of categories of "boss" - authoritarian, democratic, lasse-faire etc. I think Jesus opens up a new category. He definitely is the "boss" because we will eventually be judged by His words. His standards are high, yet His love is great. I once knew a man who worked on oil rigs. He was the naval architect and "boss" of the rig. His men told me they loved him because if they made a mistake he simply came alongside and said "try it this way next time" and showed them the best method. He took care of his men in many other ways also. This is Jesus kind of "boss" and if men could be like this in their families I think it would be most acceptable. So if "boss" means accepting responsibility, yes, the husband is boss. Whether he is successful at it depends on his methods.

Being "head" requires responsibility and devotion, putting the people first under Jesus. He is, in fact, managing for Jesus, and needs to imitate Jesus' style as part of the "Family Company".

Men need to follow Jesus' example. Everything is given for the benefit of the family, and nothing is retained for his own interest alone! My dad was a golf adict in his retirement. However, he had put this great love on hold (enjoying just the occasional game) while we were growing up in order to better serve his family. I admire this quality and self-discipline in him immensely.
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Posted 12 February 2007 - 03:13 PM

A boss gives orders and dictates policy. There is no room in a Christian marriage for a boss as that also indicates sole authority which should not be the case. Man and wife are equal in God's eyes and a man needs to work with his wife as a partner. The wife should be treated as part of a man's self, not as an employee or an outside consultant.
The head of the family should be humble, loving, compassionate and considerate. The well being and care of his family should be of the utmost importance, led by the Word and under the guidance of the true head of the family, Jesus Christ, by His Holy Spirit. His family needs to be brought up and nurtured in the Lord as it is He who will be the common ground to which the whole family can always agree with and receive direction from.
With out a doubt, Christ is the only example that the husband should follow.
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Posted 12 February 2007 - 05:25 PM

Q2. (Ephesians 5:25-30) Does being head of the wife involve being "boss"? Why or why not? What does being "head" require of a husband? What is the example husbands are to follow in headship?

No, The man is not the boss of the wife, he is to be head of the wife, just as Christ is head of the church
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Posted 13 February 2007 - 08:33 AM

No it doesn't mean to be 'boss' or 'boss' everyone around. Paul uses the word 'agapao', love that is totally unselfish that seeks not its own satisfaction, nor even affection answering affection, but that strives for the highest good of the one loved.

The example is Jesus Christ
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Posted 13 February 2007 - 01:56 PM

Q2. (Ephesians 5:25-30) Does being head of the wife involve being "boss"? Why or why not? What does being "head" require of a husband? What is the example husbands are to follow in headship?

No, our jobs as husbands does not contain the word boss,but leader in love and respect as Christ lovedHis church we also must love our wifes and allow them their right as our partner in life. As head we are to be christian leaders of our homes teaching and leadinmg in the love of Christ. We must follow the example of Christ in leading our family, being willing to give up our lives for our wives. We must always be their for them and willing to help or give them what they need that they can live a life worthy of Christ's calling.
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Post icon  Posted 13 February 2007 - 04:37 PM

Being head of wife does not mean to be boss. Real Spiritual leadership involves loving service ( A form of dying). Just as Christ served the Disciples , even to the point of washing their feet, so the husband is to serve his wife. A wise and Christ-honoring husband will not take advantages of his leadrship.
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Posted 14 February 2007 - 07:52 PM

Q2. (Ephesians 5:25-30) Does being head of the wife involve being "boss"?
No, being in the leadership role does not mean being the boss of anyone or anything, it means leader, management, showing guidance, true headship, director, source, provider, sustainer, the source of unity or to provide supervision.
Why or why not?
Because in order for one to lead one has to know how to serve.
What does being "head" require of a husband?
Being the head requires that the husband demonstrates his love as Christ demonstrated his love for the church and gave himself up to his church. "He should help her to become clean and whole. Love them as Christ loves us and our imperfect humans and bears our weaknesses. "
What is the example husbands are to follow in headship?
He should follow the leader Christ who is the true example.

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Posted 15 February 2007 - 02:31 AM

Being head of the wife is not to be her boss. This is not a business, it's a relationship. A relationship grows when each member gives & takes & gives again.

Being head of the wife involves as much as their example--Jesus--showed us. They must lead gently, serve, encourage their wives to grow in Jesus, accept their humaness with agape love & be an example of Jesus to the entire family.
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Posted 15 February 2007 - 03:24 PM

Husbands are to lead their households not be bossy.He is to lead by example as Christ does the church, provide for his family, love and protect them, to lead them spiritually and to be faithful in that union. He is to lead his family as Christ leads the Church.
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Post icon  Posted 16 February 2007 - 12:07 AM

1)No, being boss of the wife is not what scripture means.
2)Being "head" requires the husband to be as Christ is head of the church.
3)Being head means the husband should be a spiritual leader of the wife/family.
4)The husband should follow Christ as the example as Christ is head of the church.
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Post icon  Posted 16 February 2007 - 05:16 PM

QUOTE(Pastor Ralph @ Sep 4 2006, 08:07 AM) View Post
Q2. (Ephesians 5:25-30) Does being head of the wife involve being "boss"? Why or why not? What does being "head" require of a husband? What is the example husbands are to follow in headship?



Does being head of the wife involve being "boss"?

No,

Why or why not?

The wife is a helpmate to here, she is by his side not under his feet. And the bible says husband love your wife not boss her.

What does being "head" require of a husband?

The husband is the prince and spiritual leader of his household.

What is the example husbands are to follow in headship?

The husbands are to follow Jesus Christ.


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Post icon  Posted 18 February 2007 - 01:26 AM

Does being head of the wife involve being Boss? Why or why not? What does being head require of a husband?What is the example husbands are to follow in headship?

Being head of the wife is not being her boss because marriage is a two way commitment,not one ruling more over the other one.The only reason that a husband is the head of the wife is by financial means and being her guard or her protector like God is for us right now.Being head for husband is providing the necessities and by showing love and protection like God and Jesus is doing for us right now. The examples that they should follow as far as being headship is of Jesus in the Bible and to strive to be like Him in all that they do regarding marriage.
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Posted 02 March 2007 - 11:49 AM

QUOTE(Pastor Ralph @ Sep 4 2006, 08:07 AM) View Post
Q2. (Ephesians 5:25-30) Does being head of the wife involve being "boss"? Why or why not? What does being "head" require of a husband? What is the example husbands are to follow in headship?


Being the head does not mean being boss. It means that the head is the person who is the sustainer of growth for the family. He is the visionary and he distributes the vision to the wife and they together distribute it to the family. He is the one who makes the final decision but he should still consider his wife in decision making also. Being head requires that the head (husband) considers the whole body (family) not just himself. What hurts him hurts the whole body (family). The head can not be selfish. He can not treat his wife like a slave but as an assistant. The head is to love his wife as Christ loves the church. The husband should follow the example of Jesus.
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Posted 08 March 2007 - 01:42 PM

QUOTE(Pastor Ralph @ Sep 4 2006, 01:07 PM) View Post
Q2. (Ephesians 5:25-30) Does being head of the wife involve being "boss"? Why or why not? What does being "head" require of a husband? What is the example husbands are to follow in headship?

Being head of the wife does not involve being “boss” in which a husband can treat his wife as a boss can do to his workers or servants, because being head of the wife a husband must meet the particular requirement. The requirement is, according to what Paul says, a husband must love his wife, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. If a husband loves his wife, he will not treat his wife like his worker or his servant. Instead, he will do like Christ do for the Church, that is, he will give his life for the benefit of his wife, he will humble himself and serve his wife unselfishly.

Jesus Christ is the example husbands are to follow in headship. Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Because Christ loved the Church, he gave himself as ransom for the church. Jesus laid down his life for benefit of the Church. When Christ was with disciples and leaded his disciples, he did not exercise authority over them like a boss, but he served them, he humbled himself before his disciples and washed their feet. Our love for our wives is to match Christ' love for church. Our service to our wives is to match Christ's giving up himself for his church.
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Post icon  Posted 22 April 2007 - 05:32 PM

Sometimes. There needs to be one person who makes the final decision. To be "head" requires a husband to be the source, provider, sustainer, source of unity, and source of growth. Husbands should love their wives as Christ loves the church.
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Post icon  Posted 18 May 2007 - 10:40 PM

Q2. (Ephesians 5:25-30) Does being head of the wife involve being "boss"?
The husband is to be the head of the household, but that doesn’t mean he’s the boss.

Why or why not?
He is not intended to be dictator, but the loving head of his family.

What does being "head" require of a husband?
He is to be loving provider and lead his family in worship.

What is the example husbands are to follow in headship?
He should follow Christ’s example, and no other. rolleyes.gif

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