[Pastor Ralph]

Q1. (Ephesians 6:1-3) What kind of obedience and honor is appropriate for adult children to show towards their parents? What might be the exceptions? How do respect and forgiveness figure in this relationship?

[cct1106]

No matter the age of a child/children, must honor their father and their mother and be obedient.

[Commissioned]

Q1. (Ephesians 6:1-3) What kind of obedience and honor is appropriate for adult children to show towards their parents?
When we become adults, our obedience to our parents should continue as we obey the Word of God. Regardless of the age, children are to obey their parents in the Lord. There are parents, of adult children, who feel that they must control their children even as adult. In such situations, without dishonoring the parents, children should respectfully let their parents know that they appreciate the concerns of the parent, take the advice into consideration but the final decision on the matter is up to the child. In all situations honor, respect and love should be shown to parents.

What might be the exceptions?
There are times when older parents may be mentally challenged, suffering from conditions that woul render their rationalization impaired. Under such conditions the adult child must not hurt the parent by being rash with them but must show love and honor them as their parents.

How do respect and forgiveness figure in this relationship?
As children, even adults, we may never understand the motives of a parent but we should always show them respect and if they cause us harm; find it in our heart to forgive them and show them love.

[revmrf]

Q1. (Ephesians 6:1-3) What kind of obedience and honor is appropriate for adult children to show towards their parents?

Some of my thoughts have to do with practice: Don't emphasize their mistakes or failures. Recognize them but also remember to give priority to their/our positive actions, attempts, and attributes in our relationships.

What might be the exceptions?

Of course, if obedience [interpreted to be the same as honoring, in this case] contradicts one's belief parameters, after thoughtful consideration one can give the reasons why one can't go along with the request. Example: To lie about a repair cost to get more insurance money.

How do respect and forgiveness figure in this relationship?

Forgiveness may be difficult, especially in an abuse situation, but it is possible. Love and then be surprised when it is return by an act of repentance and love by the other. Example: For many years, and for reasons of her own, my mother disliked my wife and showed it by many actions. It was a tough relationship for us and we tried to maintain and show as much unconditional love as we we able. My mom had a serious heart attack. In the hospital, when we visited, she asked to be alone with my wife in her room. Fifteen minutes later my wife came out to get me... it was obvious that they had both been crying. My mother had asked for forgiveness from my wife for her misdeeds of the past toward her. You see, my mom had watched a Billy Graham Crusade event on TV on her hospital bed and had asked the Lord into her life. The Lord's forgiveness had worked another miracle. She died the next day. Thanks be to God.

[Helenmm]

Q1. (Ephesians 6:1-3) What kind of obedience and honor is appropriate for adult children to show towards their parents? What might be the exceptions? How do respect and forgiveness figure in this relationship?

I think adult children are past blind obedience to parents except if they still live in their parents' house. In that case they are still obliged to submit to parental rules about the house. They are certainly to rspect the fact that their parents own the house and deserve to be content within it, content with the way it is run etc. When they have their own home they can make the rules.

However, adult children are to honour their parents at al times. If they differ in a point of view, they are still to respect the parent in his/her viewpoint, and agree to differ. Their spouse comes before parent in fealty and parents are not permitted to come between their child and spouse. Parents can still be honoured however, by having physical needs (including some company) met in old age, by having their opinions sought on important issues (they possibly have some wisdom to offer), having birthdays remembered, and lots of little ways. Close relations should be sought and encouragement given all around!

There are always exceptions - when parents want civil law or God's law broken, when they want to interfere between husband and wife, or want to dominate their lives.

Respect is required at all times, even for the worst of parents. One can still give respect and honour. Forgiveness makes this possible. Loving is not the same as giving in all the time. Love can occur even when wisdom differs.

[charisbarak]

Obedience & honor to one's parents as an adult, is to repect them, be kind & caring towards them.

The exceptions would be if they asked you to do something immoral or something that might hurt your marriage if you're already married.

I think we can all find some place where our parents failed & my children can certainly see where I failed as a parent too. Forgiveness is key to our relationship with our parents & to respect them as having tried as hard as we do now. Try to see them as God sees them & be thankful for all the positive input into our lives.

[Eudora]

(Ephesians 6:1-3) What kind of obedience and honor is appropriate for adult children to show towards their parents? Obedience is the same to parents as is unto The Lord. In all things we are to please The Lord, so obeying our parents, is in effect obeying The Lord. Boy, I wish I had known this when I was growing up…

It wasn’t until I met my mother n law that I understood that respect for our parents was a good thing. The way that she treated me was how I in return became a better parent really. Some of her ways in rearing my children were questionable back then but now that I am older and can look back, I understand the wisdom in her creative ways of discipline. She was loving, yet firm. Learning to respect her taught me how to be a better parent. Strong and Godly families are what God intended when He said to be fruitful and multiply. God wanted family. He respects the bonds of family. Nothing is greater than God’s love for His family and when a family is bonded in The Lord, that family prospers.

Honoring parents all through our life and theirs is promoting our own health. I learned some wisdom here recently and I will share this profound wisdom with all of you.

When an elderly person has to begin to let someone else take care of them, we must always encourage that person to do as much as they are able until they absolutely can not do it for themselves anymore. This helps retain their dignity. Having taken care of many elderly people, I have learned something very profound. It takes great strength to take care of ourselves when we get older. It takes great courage to let someone else take care of us. It takes strength to live and courage to die.

I am taking care of an elderly woman of 98 years old. She is blind and hard of hearing. As I have watched her the last two years I have become very aware of how she must really trust the folks who come in and out of her home. She walks with a broom instead of a walker and in fact just received her latest blood test results and is in tip top condition for her age. She loves the Lord and puts her trust and faith in Him and if she did not have this faith in Him, she could never even begin to trust those around her. I can honestly tell you that this courage is her test of strength. I thank God for how He has preserved her in her health and I thank God that in my years of age and grace that He keeps me in such excellent condition. Yet she is hard of hearing and blind. With her faith in Him, she still hears Him whisper His love to her and even though she is blind, she sees His shape and His hand in her life, every day. Hearing is the last to go. This is a medical fact. Even if one is hard of hearing, they still hear from the Lord. This I know now was His plan all along, so if you are spending time with someone who does not know The Lord, keep talking to them with tender touch, they hear every word you say in your touch and they will always hear Him, when He calls them home.

What might be the exceptions? I don’t think there are exceptions really. Isn’t it Gods very word for us to honor our parents. If our parents told us that we could not love the Lord, do we still have lips for prayer? God will open the door and provide the route that He wants us to take. His word says that “Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.” Colossians 3:20 It doesn’t say in some things, or this or maybe that but not in this incident! The word says in ALL THINGS. If my father had told me that I could not go to church, I would have obeyed him. I would have asked God in the mean time to change my dad’s mind and God is faithful. If I went to God and said, well I want to go to church and I will go anyway, God would not honor that because it would be disobedient.

How do respect and forgiveness figure in this relationship? The same relationship that we have with our parents, now that mine are gone, I see in the relationship that I have with My Father in heaven. I respect God and He respects me. He forgives me and He loves me. My parents, even though I treated them so unfairly and wish I could do it all over again, has taught me that in this day, I can treat all elderly the way that I wish I could if my own parents, if they were here today. Respectfully, lovingly and carefully… honoring them in all things. Knowing and loving The Lord, has taught me how to know and love all elderly as if I have been given a second chance.

[JustJeff]

As an adult a child should have the utmost respect for their parents as they were used by God to bring them forth into this world for His purpose. God orders us to honor them and we must as it was they that brought us into adulthood even if it was not in the manner of love that we would expect. God uses the most difficult of family circumstances for our destiny and as we grow in Him we come to have pity on those we love who may not have been able to do what they should have as parents. It is when a parent tries to draw us away from the Lord or tempt us to risk our salvation that when we need to back away. It is possible to obey God toward your parents without being close to them because of faith issues. One should never completely disregard ones parents however, as there will be a time when they will be no more and any chance to win them to the faith will be gone forever.

[masika]

There is a difference between obeuing and honoring . To honor means to do as one told. To honor means to respect and Love.
Adult chldren are not asked to be subservient to domineering parents . Children should honor their parents even if th parents are demanding and unfair.
The responsibility for children to honor parents is for life.
Both parents and children should put the other's interest above their own - that if they submit to another in God's Love.

[sis. dee]

Q1. (Ephesians 6:1-3) What kind of obedience and honor is appropriate for adult children to show towards their parents? What might be the exceptions? How do respect and forgiveness figure in this relationship?

The kind of obedience and honor that adult children are to show towards their parents, show be with obedience, respect, loving and caring. We should always remember our parents who love and cared for us when we were growing up. What might be the exception? I believe that when they becomes elders sometimes they are not able to do for themselves, we should be there for them, not to forget about them. We should always respect and forgive our parents. All parents are not perfect, they have made some mistakes in riseing us (I know that I have made some mistakes in riseing my son, and my parents have made some in riseing me) forgiveness is the keys, we must forgive, just like God has forgiven us.

[Lisa Rupert]

Q1. (Ephesians 6:1-3) What kind of obedience and honor is appropriate for adult children to show towards their parents? What might be the exceptions? How do respect and forgiveness figure in this relationship?
Adult children should show their parents love and respect. It is written in the Word "Honor your parents" and this is what adult children should do as Christians.
The exceptions should be if the parents request unlawful behavior or behavior unfitting to God. Ones parents should not come between the new family of their adult children, unless warranted, and the adult child should maintain a healthy relationsonship with his/her parents even in adulthood.
We must respect our parents for their wisdom and knowledge even if we don't always agree we can still respect them for loving us and caring enough about us that they try to keep us on the righteous path. We should always take care of our parents, in the best ways that we can. We should never abandon them no matter what the situation, we should constantly show them our love and honor them as our parents.

[Helen Williams]

God has told us to obey and honor our parents. We are to do this until death. This is also for our protection. We are prayful and hopeful that they are not going to tell us to obey when it causes us to disobey God. When God tells us to do or not to do we can rest assured that it is for our good. I losted my father on April 6, 2007 and we often talk of the things he told us. When we are younger there are a lot of theing we don't see and don't know, it is our parents that are keeping us alive. Just think how many holes we would have stepped in if we had not listen and obeyed. When we did not obey we had to suffer the consequences. I know the rod was not spared.

The exception would be when we are asked to do something contrary to the word of God. This should be in every area of our life.

We are to respect and forgive just as we want to be respected and forgiven. They will forever be our parents and we should do all we can do for them. Respect and Honor them while we have them. I think of my dad often and wish he was here. But I am okay because I obeyed, respected and love him while he was with us. Cherish all the moments, they are precious.

[Stan]

Q1. (Ephesians 6:1-3) What kind of obedience and honor is appropriate for adult children to show towards their parents? What might be the exceptions? How do respect and forgiveness figure in this relationship?

Honor and obedience that shows respect for them. Helping them to continue to grow in the Lord and to live lives worthy of His Love. If they are trying tolive for Christ then we as they children and children of God must show them the same love.

The exception might be when they refuse to accept God as Father and Saviour. If they are not living lives worthy of Christ and His love for them. Respect and forgiveness inter the picture when we as sinners fall short in our respect and honor for each other wheather as children or parents. We must remember that we are all sinners and have fallen short and must show forgiveness for each other.

[June]

Children can obey by listening and doing for them. Chores that older adults have difficulty with. If still living in household all the more reason to help around the house. Children like to do their own thing, but to listen and honor parents is commanded of God and they'll have long life. Only if asked to do something immoral should a child disobey the parent and turn to the Lord instead.Our lifespan is directly dependent upon our willingness to obey. Christ respects us enough that He gave His Only Son for our forgiveness. A child will mimic what he sees so if we are doing what God wants us to, the children will show respect.

[BJB123]

1) Adult children should obey, honor, respect and care for their parents.
2) Exceptions to obedience is if the parent(s) are sick or on some type of medication that may cause them to request things that are not good or healthy for them physically or spiritually.
3)Adult children should always respect and forgive their parents. Adult children should always take the best care they can for their parents.

[PCHRIS]

I beleive it should be an ongoing thing for adult children to show respect and honour towards their parents unless of course what is been said or encouraged to do goes completely their faith and the Word of God.
Personally it took me awhile to forgive my parents for what happened in the past but we have worked through it and now we have a renewed relationship based on love, respect and honour in both camps.

[haar]

Adult children are to show respect to their parents. They are to care for them.

The exception to the obedience required is when the parents demand or oder the childeren to do any thing that will not honor God. Obedience must to God first, parents next.

[sahala p.s.]

Q1. (Ephesians 6:1-3) What kind of obedience and honor is appropriate for adult children to show towards their parents? What might be the exceptions? How do respect and forgiveness figure in this relationship?

The kind of obedience and honor appropriate for adult children to show towards their parents is of obedience, listening with harkening to or responding to a command, but that is done in the Lord, that is, that is part of our obedience to the Lord. The children must obey their parent in everything, but if they are asked by the parents to do something opposite to Lord's Word, they must obey the Lord instead of their parents. The command to obey our parents gives way to the underlying command to honor them at point the children form a new family.

Of honor, it is of not cursing, of listening, of not despising, of caring, the parents, of making them glad. To honor our our parents is our obligation until death.
Respect and forgiveness figure in this relationship in the way of that the great respect of the children to our parents is proofed by their forgiveness for their wrong and hurting treatment to them.

[Minchar]

Q1. (Ephesians 6:1-3) What kind of obedience and honor is appropriate for adult children to show towards their parents? What might be the exceptions? How do respect and forgiveness figure in this relationship?

As adults, we should care for our parents in the older age. At that time, they need looking out for just like they did for their adult children. The only exception is if they are telling you to do something immoral or against God. We must forgive like Christ have forgiven us.