Pastor Ralph Posted September 15, 2006 Report Share Posted September 15, 2006 Q55. (Ephesians 6:4) What kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) can embitter or cause a child to lose heart? What do you think the "training and instruction of the Lord" involves? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cct1106 Posted January 27, 2007 Report Share Posted January 27, 2007 As the scripture brings out that fathers should not be irritating (badgering) to children. Do not be putting them down or saying mean and cruel things to them. Should be training and teaching discipline and mental regulating with love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Tabatha Posted January 27, 2007 Report Share Posted January 27, 2007 Q2. (Ephesians 6:4) What kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) can embitter or cause a child to lose heart? What do you think the "training and instruction of the Lord" involves? The stern tone of discipline here is offset by the affection of love shown. However, many parents are reluctant to discipline their children at all. Some fear they will forfeit their relationship, that their children will resent them, or that they will stifle their children's development. But correction won't kill children, and it may prevent them from foolish moves that will. Verbal and emotional abuse can carry a child through his or her life. They lose confidence in themselves and have a feeling of worthlessnes, Training and instructing a child in the ways of the Lord is teaching them bible stories, teaching them how to pray, how to respect others, how to respect themselves, Have a Christ-honoring manner in the home and outside of the home. Showing them the example of Jesus. Parents should act in love, to others as well as treating their children as Jesus treats the people He loves This is vital to childre's development and to their understanding of what Christ is like. The worst thing we as parents can do is alienate our children by nagging, deriding, or destroying their self-respect so they lose heart. Children are gifts from God to love, nurture, and tend as beautiful flowers. water them with the word of God, feed them with the Love of Jesus, and hug and kiss them with angels hugs and kissess. always keep them covered with prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Commissioned Posted January 29, 2007 Report Share Posted January 29, 2007 Q2. (Ephesians 6:4) What kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) can embitter or cause a child to lose heart? Treating the child with disrespect. Speaking to the child without allowing them to share their opinion in a matter. Discipling the child in anger and without love. Parents must always treat their children as a gift from God and beyond that we must remember that our children belong to the Lord and we are to treat them as His precious jewel. What do you think the "training and instruction of the Lord" involves? It involves the parents teaching the child from the Word of God. Parents are to teach their children how to live by the Word, obeying the commands of God, applying the word to situations they find themselves in. The best teacher that they will have is seeing their parents model what they are teaching. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
revmrf Posted February 13, 2007 Report Share Posted February 13, 2007 Q2. (Ephesians 6:4) What kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) can embitter or cause a child to lose heart? By never giving them credit or encouragement, whether the were successful in a task or not. By ignoring their input and ideas, a non-acknowledgment of their person-hood and growth. i.e. 'stupid kid' What do you think the "training and instruction of the Lord" involves? Teach to give value.. highest value.. to our Scriptures by our own life style and example. Example: When I taught my children to ski, I found the most efficient, long lasting and best way was not by many words, rather by example "Follow Me!" They mimicked me, turned where I turned on bumps, saw my body positions, and watched and copied my equipment care. All three kids became expert skiers and raced competitively. Admonish gently b/c a child may not be aware of the consequences of their action. Take time to be with each child. Special, unique time, alone with him/her. This demonstrates our love and value of them. Example: I have a friend that takes his grand daughter out to dinner periodically... not just on birthdays or such. It is just him and her. He dresses in a suit coat and tie, and gives her a flower. Confession: I wish I had done that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charisbarak Posted February 18, 2007 Report Share Posted February 18, 2007 Parents can be very unthinking sometimes. They correct their children in anger--unlovingly and make the child feel like a failure & very much unloved. The parents can be so self-centered they think only of the crime that was committed towards them & seek an "almost revenge" on the child. Other times, they wish to control the child or enjoy seeing a child suffer. This is especially true when parents are themselves messed up, on drugs or alcohol. The training & instruction of the Lord takes place when the parent deliberately calms him/herself down & prays--allowing themselves time to lovingly correct their child. Children need boundaries & need to be held to not stepping over them. Allowing punishment, following through each time--letting them experience the consequences of what they did, and ending that session with a hug for the child to let them know you still love them, but letting them know that they did something wrong. Turning them to the right direction is part of the training & instruction. Regular Bible reading & Bible memorization are excellent tools to show the children what God expects & that He loves them so much more than you could ever love them and He & you want the very best for them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eudora Posted February 18, 2007 Report Share Posted February 18, 2007 Q2. (Ephesians 6:4) What kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) can embitter or cause a child to lose heart? When we discipline out of a re-action to an action, we cause friction. It becomes combustion. Frustration and anger only bring out the worst in us as parents and show us in a very bad light. This cause our children to fear us and rebel. To wait a bit is best. We can bring the honey of The Lord to any conversation and then lay down a just punishment or admonition with our children. But of course this is something again, I have learned to late in life since my children are all grown. All I can say is that if any of you are young and in this lesson, and have not yet had children, raise them in The Lord. In every situation, ask yourself, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sis. dee Posted February 18, 2007 Report Share Posted February 18, 2007 Q2. (Ephesians 6:4) What kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) can embitter or cause a child to lose heart? What do you think the "training and instruction of the Lord" involves? We can never say anything good about them, always talking them down. Disrepecting our children, not showing them love nor support. When we discipline some it is done out of anger and not love. The training and instruction of the Lord should involves training your children in the ways of the Lord, by Bible reading. having daily devotions, going to church together, teaching them to pray. We should instruct our children in love and in godly wisdoms. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustJeff Posted February 19, 2007 Report Share Posted February 19, 2007 Bad parental behavior would include sexual, verbal, physical and spiritual abuse, neglect, abandonment, trauma, excessiveness in corporal punishment, degradation. Any or all would cause a child to become bitter and lose heart, to say the least. Proverbs 22:6; "Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Simply put, a parent needs to be a Christlike example in all aspects of their behavior which would include biblical rearing and training of their youngsters. That would include moderate behavior which would prevent excessiveness, and a greater reliance on the Lord. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
masika Posted February 19, 2007 Report Share Posted February 19, 2007 The purpose of parental dicipline is to help children grow , not to excasperate and provoke them to anger or discouragement- Parenting is not easy - It takes lots of patient to raise children in a loving , Christ-honoring manner. But frustration and anger should not be causes for discipline . Instead parents should act in love , treating their childrern as Jesus treats the people He Loves . This is vital to children's development and their understanding of what Christ is Like. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helen Williams Posted February 19, 2007 Report Share Posted February 19, 2007 Fathers/mothers do not want to cause embitterment when training their children. We are to train with love. Children learn from example. We cannot let wrong behavior go without being corrected, but as I said correct in love. This is an on going processs. We want our children to grow and deal with their children in a loving manner. We also have to watch how we speak, beacuse language can be abusive. We don't want to provoke our kids. If we follow the greatest example of all and that is Jesus then we are on the right road. God want us to train them up in the way of the Lord. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helenmm Posted February 20, 2007 Report Share Posted February 20, 2007 Over correction can be associated with anorexia. Ignoring a child or paying insufficient attention to him/her may well cause major depression if not outright rebellion. Putting children down will produce undesirable effects. Some children ex;por by pushing people's buttons hardand need stronger correction than others whose desire is to please their parents. Each is different and warrants special attention. The training and instruction of the lord involves spending time with children in doing lots of things together, discussing their lives and what God might have to say about things. It also involves lots of encouragement, which means that you need to get to know the child and what s/he is good at so they may feel encouraged and strengthened, I think anticipation is important - seeing what is coming up in the near future and discussing appropriate scenarios so the child will be forewarned about the issues, and has a "management plan" in place, eg the need to discuss teenage issues early so chldren can see what goes on and make sound decision for themseles. Sensing a child's problems and being ready for discussion is valuable. There is so much involved. For example, today I was watching a James Dobson program on the effects of computer games on children. Having time and interest in the children is so urgent. Too many times parents are too busy to know what is really going on, and regret it later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stan Posted February 20, 2007 Report Share Posted February 20, 2007 Q2. (Ephesians 6:4) What kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) can embitter or cause a child to lose heart? What do you think the "training and instruction of the Lord" involves? A hard stuborn I'm always right attitude that causes children to rebel against the Lord and not be able to honor father and mother as God has ordained. If we press on the our atttitudes then they can only rebel and cause themto lose faith when they are not seeing it livedout by their parents. Training and instruction means instructing them in the Bible and how it applies to their daily lives and how to live for Christ. At the same time we must be learning how to grow in the ways of faith so that we can teach this to our children as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa Rupert Posted February 20, 2007 Report Share Posted February 20, 2007 Q2. (Ephesians 6:4) What kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) can embitter or cause a child to lose heart? One kind of behavior would be the "You do as I say, and not as I do" behavior. Parents are to love and nurture their children. They are to train and guide them and protect them and teach them the ways of the Lord and also the difference between the ways of the Lord and the ways of the world and teach them how to balance the two ways. They are to lie down primary principals needed for their children to live a Christian life. Parents should prepare their children for the changes that life will bring about, teach them the importance of having the Lord in their lives as they adventure though life. Parents must remember what you teach will be taught, if it is bad behavior, then bad behavior will be the reward and will proceed to next generation, if it is good Christian behavior this too will be taught and forwarded on. What do you think the "training and instruction of the Lord" involves? I believe good instruction, loving guidance, firm but effective discipline, caring, nurturing, training, a good hands approach into what your child sees and experiences in his/her life, followed with understanding and direction with postive doctrine which will not only lead but sustain and guide them into a Christian lifestyle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
June Posted February 21, 2007 Report Share Posted February 21, 2007 Purposely provoking and badgering the child and making discipline a power game. Father's need not discipline in anger. It is to train the child's spirit not to break it. By exercising all the fruits of the Spirit during discipline would help train them up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BJB123 Posted February 21, 2007 Report Share Posted February 21, 2007 1)Being to hard or to harsh on a child can cause them to lose heart. Parents should be gentle/kind and caring and yet give them correct discipline and not expect things that children cannot deal with. Children should be raised up in a Godly home and in a Godly manner. 2)Train and teach children about Christ. Teach them the ways of the Lord. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PCHRIS Posted February 21, 2007 Report Share Posted February 21, 2007 There is a number of behaviours which can lead to a child losing heart- sexual, physical, mental, verbal abuse. For me the most lasting effect would be the derogatory remarks, the put downs and the 'you are not wanted' talk is the most damaging. Training our children in the way of the Lord: devotions, reading the Word, prayer, worship but also a stable Godly family relationship works well. One quote from R.W. Dale reads- " parents should care more for the loyalty of their children to Christ than for anything besides, more for this than for their health, their intellectual vigour, and brilliance, their material prosperity, their social position, their exemption fron great sorrows and great misfortunes" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
haar Posted March 2, 2007 Report Share Posted March 2, 2007 Behaviour that can enbtter the child is that which provokes him. Such behaviours can be unloving, unmerited or unfair treaatment in the name of discipline. Training of the child should be loving, tender and shuld not be by acts of wickedness to the child. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sahala p.s. Posted March 8, 2007 Report Share Posted March 8, 2007 Q2. (Ephesians 6:4) What kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) can embitter or cause a child to lose heart? What do you think the "training and instruction of the Lord" involves? The kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) that can embitter or cause a child to lose heart is that deliberately provoke a child's anger by badgering or turning an incident into a power game or that cause a child to react in a way that suggest acceptance of a challenge. The training and instruction of the Lord involves anything done by or out of fathers to their children in form of example, maintaining discipline, diligence, teaching, instruction, showing, giving responsibility, then supporting them as they learn to keep them faithfully in following Lord. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minchar Posted March 17, 2007 Report Share Posted March 17, 2007 Q2. (Ephesians 6:4) What kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) can embitter or cause a child to lose heart? What do you think the "training and instruction of the Lord" involves? Provoking a child can cause the child to become bitter. Alot of times as parents, we try to live our lives through our children which becomes a problem. We begin to make ourselves feel good at the expense of our children which is wrong. They will only become discourage and bitter. Training and instruction involve thing such as maintaining discipline, diligence, teaching, instructing, showing, giving responsibilities, and then supporting them as they learn which will keep them faithful along with warning and admonition. As a single mother, I found myself not consistent with my punishment which was not wise. We must remember that we are raising and training our kids as unto the Lord. They do not belong to us they belong to Him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jewell Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 Behavior that is self-focused, not centered on the intent of correcting the child, can embitter them. Training and instruction of the Lord means raising them in a Christ-filled home where we live the examples that Jesus gave us, where we teach them his commandments and share his love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AngelOnLine Posted May 18, 2007 Report Share Posted May 18, 2007 Q2. (Ephesians 6:4) What kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) can embitter or cause a child to lose heart? When they belittle them and continually put them down, the child becomes discouraged and has low self esteem. What do you think the "training and instruction of the Lord" involves? To bring the child up to love and honor God, and to know His Word. To discipline them with love and not anger. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meandean Posted July 17, 2007 Report Share Posted July 17, 2007 Q2. (Ephesians 6:4) What kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) can embitter or cause a child to lose heart? What do you think the "training and instruction of the Lord" involves? i suppose the quickest way to describe this is to grab a hammer and smash your thumb then go off on everything around you. then we'll see improper behavior.but theres a whole lot more then dealing out the wrath,how about ignoring the kids or isolating them. they really need more than just providing a home or clothes on their back. they need to be built up in confidence and assurance. they need to know they are not alone ever.they need to know they are loved beyond measure.and if jesus has shown us these, than so should we pass them on to our kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beadie Posted November 27, 2007 Report Share Posted November 27, 2007 If we act condescending or superior toward our children, this can cause resentment. Resentment can lead to rebellion. Too often parents build up their own self esteem by putting down or overly criticizing their children. Constant criticism can cause a child to become discouraged and give up on learning. All criticism should be constructive and supportive if we are to achieve the intended results. Training and instructing of the Lord involves teaching a child about Jesus and God and the Bible. It also means teaching them about the expectations of being Christians and being God Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edler Posted June 28, 2009 Report Share Posted June 28, 2009 Q2. (Ephesians 6:4) What kind of behavior by fathers (or mothers, for that matter) can embitter or cause a child to lose heart? What do you think the "training and instruction of the Lord" involves? living an inconsistent life before a child can provoke a child. a parent who tells a child one thingand then turn around and does the opposite thing himself is full of hypocrisy and false profession. a parent is to bring up a child in the ways of the Lord,in the nurture and admonition. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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