I ave been overwhelmed by God's loving tenderness in reading the postings of other members. So many of us have been through mind-boggling trials. Let me briefly add my own story:
For about 6 or 7 years my mom has suffered from Alzheimer's, and my Dad has been her caregiver. At Thanksgiving (which is in October in Canada) my Dad finally had Mom put in a nursing home, not by choice, but because he was physically exhausted, having dizzy spells, headaches, and trouble concentrating. We put it down to exhaustion, but long story short, he was diagnosed with a highly aggressive, inoperable brain tumor. I will probably say good-bye to both my parents within the year.
What amazes me is that God was preparing me for this "fire" of testing in our lives. I had actually been teaching our Ladies study on, guess what, 1 Peter. I had started a personal study, which I am teaching on Joseph. And I had been taking another group study on Romans, and we were in chapter 8 at the time of the diagnosis. I had said to my Ladies group, slightly tongue in cheek, that I wondered what God had in store for me, because He always prepares us for the ordeals He then walks us through.
2 weeks later came the news.
I have always loved the picture of the silversmith, refining precious metal which 1 Peter writes. As we are placed in the crucible and heated in the fire, the silversmith watches carefully. He draws out the metal at just the right moment, and skims off the impurities, and only when he can see his reflection clearly does the process stop.
That's how God is glorified -- as we are refined by fire, we become more and more conformed to the image of Christ. I will not be exactly like Him until I see Him face to face, but as I go through trials, I can become little by little more like Him. As a familiar song says, "Refiner's fire, my heart's one desire is to be holy, set apart for You, my Master, ready to do Your will." That's how we glorify God -- by becoming holy and by doing the will of God
One final thought... I always take comfort and find peace in the thought that there's no point in focusing on the circumstances of the trial, since God already has the outcome in the palm of His hand. What I need to concentrate on is HOW am I going through the trial... with Christlikeness and faith, or giving in to fear and doubt.