1).First I think that we are hiding sin in our lives. If we have a relationship that is just on the surface then we do not have to let the real self out and we can hide our true thoughts, feelings and wants. We are slo afraid that if we let our real self out (our sin, bad habits ect. ) then no one will like us, so we put on a fake front beleiving that what we are showing is what people want to see and know. If we do not have a real realationship with Christ then we can have a real relationship with our fellow Christians. If we are going to church and trying to have fellowship with christians and we are faking our relationship with Christ then it will be very difficult to have a relatioship with christians. Light and darkness does not mix. we will hide our real self because we do not have the real relationship with christ.
2.)To have that deeper level of relattionship with Christ is to 1.Truly want it. to seek HIs ways for your life, to obey his commandment, and to have a pray life.
3. Pray and a desire to do HIs will. This should bring you to a humbleness to realize that others are just as inportant and we are all God's children.