It's hard to confront people that you like, especially people that stroke our egos. And it may be hard for some of us who are people pleasers, those of us who have a hard time saying "no". It's uncomfortable and hard to do.
A fear might be that members might leave the church,and financial responsibilities wouldn't be met.
Confrontation would be beneficial if it was directed by God but also if the church needed new direction, if they were headed down the wrong path, needing a new vision.
When we refuse to confront, like you said in your notes, we lose our sense of direction and unity. We become a sojourner, wandering aimlessly with no purpose. Reliant K has a song about his grandfather as he is about to die and he is looking back over his life. At one point in the song it states "if life was a highway I was drunk at the wheel". For me, that summs it up pretty well, and i can relate.