Old Jerry Posted March 2, 2011 Report Share Posted March 2, 2011 I think that the reason that is so difficult for some church leaders to confront people is because they want to be friends to all in the church. They also don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nurselaino Posted March 3, 2011 Report Share Posted March 3, 2011 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? Confrontation at times is difficult. If not treated in a certain manner it can cause division and picking of sides. When you confront someone you must know that you are in the right and that you can back up what you have to say. Confrontation can be a good thing when wrongs are being done. At times someone may not realize what their actions are doing. When we refuse to confront things we should whether it be our own actions or those of others it leads to our accepting of the wrongs being done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goshener Posted March 3, 2011 Report Share Posted March 3, 2011 Some church leaders feel the difficulties for having less faith, then they may forget that such is the work for God and of God; but please do not blame them for after a short while, they will gain more faith and strengthen their self-confidence under the leading guide of God. I believe most of the fears are about the results of high expectation of the ones who strongly desire to accomplish the works for and of God. I regard the confrontation and rebuke as good things (to become one of the good church leaders)to make such the ones more humble,try harder, gaining more faith and at the same time to plead God for HIS Help to finish HIS WILL as HE pleased. If we try to refuse to confront these obstacles, we shall feel of having no peace, not being satisfied with ourselves and at last we shall have to totally surrender to HIM and try to finish our duty the best we could. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blezed Posted March 3, 2011 Report Share Posted March 3, 2011 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? 1) It is difficult for some church leaders to confront people because they fear how the person will react or they do not like confrontation. 2) The fears that a church leader face may be unpopularity, people quiting the ministry, lost of respect, people not tithing, being asked to resign or in some cases violent reaction. 3) Confrontation and rebuke can be a good thing because it can correct a situation up front, one can be preceived as an effective leader and a leader that knows how to get things done. The ministry will not be hindered by nonsense. My Pastor always saids you can'nt fix it if you don't face it! 4) When we refuse to confront a situation it will get worse. One will not be looked upon as being an effective leader. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Noke Posted March 3, 2011 Report Share Posted March 3, 2011 It is difficult for some church leaders to confront people because of fear to spoil their relationships or cause conflicts. Confrontation and rebuke can be a good thing when they bring the situation back under control and enlighten those concerned of the situation thus arrested. If we refuse to confront when we should, things might get uncontrollable and even destroy the harmony that pre-existed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BIGGRIZZ Posted March 4, 2011 Report Share Posted March 4, 2011 A leader may be unsure of their position as leader Leader may face fears of: -loss of membership in congregation -loss of financial suppot for church loss of respect from congregation member. We may lose respect as a leader We may may cause a member to lose repect for God Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
haar Posted March 5, 2011 Report Share Posted March 5, 2011 Some Church leaders find it difficult to confront people because they do not want to hurt them (especially the big and rich members of the church), they do not want such people to leave the church. Leaders should however be ready to rebuke and confront people who indulge in sinful behavours so as to build a people prepared for the Lord. Failure to do this will result in waywardness and disoder in the church. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bless Posted March 5, 2011 Report Share Posted March 5, 2011 I agree with ivory eagle. Also, God does not have any jelly back leaders, it is when we can kill our own agenda! that we can do what thus says the Lord. Ps 118:6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
csreeves Posted March 7, 2011 Report Share Posted March 7, 2011 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? Church leaders realize that their members really just want to come and go home with no responsibilities. Jesus confronts us and rebukes us with love. Our leaders should also. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quilter Posted March 8, 2011 Report Share Posted March 8, 2011 1:LEADERS FEARS UPSETTING THE PEOPLE AND WILL LOSE PEOPLE IN THE CHURCH. 2:LEADERS FACE LOSING FRIENDS AND NUMBERS. 3:THE PROBLEM HAS TO BE ADRESSED TO BE RESOLVED.IT IS LIKE TAKING THE BAD APPLE OUT AND OTHERS WON'T GO BAD. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ashech Posted March 22, 2011 Report Share Posted March 22, 2011 Pastor Ralph, on 01 February 2011 - 07:48 PM, said: Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? Some leaders are usually taught to strive for peace with everyone. Yet others have the mentality as being paid by the church should please the members. What fears in this regard does a leader face? A leader usually fears misunderstanding towards his goodwill that will result slanders or critics on the leader. The leader fears relationship be worsened and that will effect the church ministry. By the way,leaders alway consider church quantity, a priority, and they fear a decrease in membership because it is not easy to bring people into the church. How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? Yes, to save those who love God from the crabbing way. Confrontation and rebuke will wake up those who sleep in sin, become aware of the danger and quickly repent. What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? We sin when we do not do the good thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pcmiller25 Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? It's hard to confront people that you like, especially people that stroke our egos. And it may be hard for some of us who are people pleasers, those of us who have a hard time saying "no". It's uncomfortable and hard to do. A fear might be that members might leave the church,and financial responsibilities wouldn't be met. Confrontation would be beneficial if it was directed by God but also if the church needed new direction, if they were headed down the wrong path, needing a new vision. When we refuse to confront, like you said in your notes, we lose our sense of direction and unity. We become a sojourner, wandering aimlessly with no purpose. Reliant K has a song about his grandfather as he is about to die and he is looking back over his life. At one point in the song it states "if life was a highway I was drunk at the wheel". For me, that summs it up pretty well, and i can relate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
divinewonderful Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? Most leaders they value the numbers of people, so they become afraid to confront someone because they would not want to loose the members. they might fear to loose their respect and financial support and especialy that person could be a tither. Confrontation and rebuke could be a good thing because as brothers in Christ we need to correct one another because if we can't do that then we will not be right in God's presence. As a leader it might distract and it shows that a person did not carry God's word because the bible say we need to correct one another and rebuke with brotherly love because if we dont we might cause that person to sin. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pickledilly Posted April 3, 2011 Report Share Posted April 3, 2011 Some reasons for the difficulty some church leaders have in confronting people might be lack of courage, intimidation, lack of firm principle about the issue at hand. I think sometimes the lack of needed confrontation is because the leader is not closely following the direction of the LORD. This will create fears of conflict, dissention, division, rejection, hurting people Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kcjim Posted April 7, 2011 Report Share Posted April 7, 2011 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? In some cultures, church leaders are seen as "conciliators" or "moderators," bringing resolution of problems in consensus-building ways, so often pastors avoid confrontation until absolutely necessary, or even avoid it completely, seeing confrontation as a sign that they failed. Confrontation can make everyone sit up and notice, can make people see that not everything can be compromised away, can teach that there are some absolutes (a song in the 90's says, "there is a line I will not cross"). When we (leaders) refuse to confront when we should, some followers will become discouraged, and God's will may not be done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raksie Posted April 12, 2011 Report Share Posted April 12, 2011 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? When church leaders confront people of the congregation, often times these people will withhold their tithes. Hence it is not a good bussiness practice to upset people. However, confrontation can have a positive influence on some. When God expects you to confront and you don't, then you do not do according to His Will and purpose, as well as thereby missing an opportunity to correct someone's behaviour. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trusting God Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? Fear. What fears in this regard does a leader face? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fireball3 Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? 1.It shouldnt be they sould listen to the spirit of the lord and come with love to them. 2.Losing a soul? They might leave because u exsposed there sin . But as a leader u need tto stand on the word, dont sugar coat nothing if they leave and dont pray for them. 3.open rebuke is good for the soul.Proverbs27.5,confrontation will test you spiritualy. 4.we get in trouble with the lord.we dont confront sitation well it could turn to sin.we can miss a blessing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spencersophia Posted January 4, 2012 Report Share Posted January 4, 2012 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? Some leaders are cowards. They lack faith and always steps out in their own strength. God is able and if a situation arise that needs a confrontation to make things right, go right ahead and depend on the direction and instructions from the Lord. Always work with the undiluted word of God. What fears in this regard does a leader face? The fear of losing a soul to the devil. There are instances when a decision has to be made in regards to who is right or who is wrong. You can never be wrong when he are guided by the Lord. If a member or two goes. Pray for them, that they will see their fault and return to the Lord. Please remember that you are called to be faithful to the Lord, no to be the best leader in the eyes of man. Faithful unto death. How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? Through every trial, you should be stronger. Confrontation and rebuke should resolve disagreements, conflicts, remove sin, all wrongs should be made right. There is no way a problem can be settled unless it is confronted or rebuked. What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? Sin continues to spread. The wrong thing will be upheld and sin will be highlight of the day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wifee Posted February 9, 2012 Report Share Posted February 9, 2012 2a)Ministers fearful of critical reaction to confrontation,they don’t always feel mentally &physically strong enough to carry this out. They may not have the skills to do it. b)That people would publically disagree with the minister,that they might leave the fellowship,reduce their tithe. C)If it is done with a civil manner where both parties are willing to change,it allows views &feelings held to be challenged, discussed and people to be changed if open to what God is saying through his Spirit. A new open honest deeper relationship forms. D)Not addressing a problem,permits it to continue, and it may become worse.If negative feelings/views on an issue are not explored they continue to have an impact on their responses, which may affect others too. It doesn’t show good leadership skills in guiding others on a way forward. Disobedience,lack of productivity,discord Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IvoryEagle Posted April 7, 2012 Report Share Posted April 7, 2012 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? AFRAID OF BEING WRONG IN THE EYES OF THE PEOPLE. What fears in this regard does a leader face? LOSS OF MONEY, MEMBERSHIP, AND ADMIRATION How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? PEOPLE ARE LOOKING AT THE LEADER TO LEAD. WHEN THAT HAPPENS, OTHERS WILL NOT TEST THE LEADERSHIP WITHOUT COUNTING THE COST. What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? IT IS SEEN AS ACCEPTABLE. IT IS SEEN AS A REWARD SINCE A REPRIMAND WOULD INDICATE DISAPPROVAL. THAT WHICH IS REWARDED IS REPEATED, MORE. IT ESCULATES AMONG THE PEOPLE AND EVENTUALLY, THE LEADERSHIP AND THE CHURCH LOSE CREDIBILITY. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katina Angelle Posted November 18, 2013 Report Share Posted November 18, 2013 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should?     Some church leaders desire being liked by their members more than anything, and confronting a member or the whole church can result in the lost of members. That causes fear in some leaders.  To confront and rebuke brings correction to the body of Christ; its the job of a leader. A leader who does not confront for whatever reason stand a chance of disorganization and division in the church...among the members.     Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katina Angelle Posted November 18, 2013 Report Share Posted November 18, 2013 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should?     Some church leaders desire being liked by their members more than anything, and confronting a member or the whole church can result in the lost of members. That causes fear in some leaders.  To confront and rebuke brings correction to the body of Christ; its the job of a leader. A leader who does not confront for whatever reason stand a chance of disorganization and division in the church...among the members.     Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Craig Posted November 27, 2013 Report Share Posted November 27, 2013 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should?   For some, confrontation is be avoided at almost all costs. Most people don't like confrontation for the obvious reasons. However, confrontation must be engaged in when a leader must deal with a staff member or church/ministry member who is clearly out of line or vision.  One major fear is after the confrontation takes place is division created and will that person continue to support the ministry? Will people see me as a mean and bad person? Am I going to seen as unchristian? These are some of the fears/thoughts that run through a leader's mind when confronting another person(s). Again, confrontation is need and is in fact vital. How else does a leader address issues when a person doesn't hear you in a staff meaning or general discussion. Some people march to their own tune and need to be reigned in and that only comes from confrontation. Confrontation is not bad, just sometimes uncomfortable.  Confrontation often positively corrects issues and behaviors. However, when a leader refuses to confront he loses control of his ministry. Incompetent and non-called people try to high-jack ministries for their ego satisfaction everyday. A strong leader must not permit this to happen to an effective ministry. A leader must not be afraid to confront people doing harm to their ministry. To affects the people you are ministering to and detracts from the Lord in whom you are serving. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Onerivertrail Posted September 28, 2014 Report Share Posted September 28, 2014 Q2. Why is it so difficult for some church leaders to confront people? What fears in this regard does a leader face? How can confrontation and rebuke be a good thing? What happens when we refuse to confront when we should? I believe some church leaders are afraid to confront the people because of repercussions for speaking the truth. Truth will sometimes make a person uncomfortable and reject the one who gave it. Some congregations are used to controlling the pastor and demanding only comfortable teaching for direction. Others may pull out their support of the church until the pastor sees it their way. If a pastor speaks the truth in love and it is based on the word of God then those words will not return empty. They will be God's words and not mans. We must step forward as leaders or find ourselves shaken by God if we refuse to confront and correct when we should. Refusing to do right is disobedience to the Father. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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